The Road of Trials

Your Hero’s Journey: The Road of Trials

 

Have you ever gone gung ho into something, only to hit an obstacle (or several) when the rubber meets the road?

 

I ran my first ever marathon October 1, 2016.

 

I was super excited. I had trained for months. I had bought a new sports bra. I had fancy energy gel packs. I was READY.

 

And then the rubber hit the road. Or whatever material my New Balance minimalist shoes were made out of.

 

At mile 0.1, I encountered my first challenge. My running belt was bouncing around, since I wasn’t running with the water bottles I had been during my months of training. “This is gonna get old over 26 miles, but it’s really just annoying, nothing more,” I thought. “Just get in the zone and remember for next time,” I told myself. I trotted along with a great pace, according to my Nike+ Run app.

 

At mile 2, it started to downpour. Like not just a little sprinkle. A heavy torrent of rain that made me wish that I was wearing goggles with little windshield wipers. Every inch of me was soaked. On the plus side, it made everything stick to me, including the dang running belt, so it was suctioned in place. OK, it’s fine, I’ll dry out.

 

At mile 4, the possibility of dry seems like a distant memory. We were entering the section of the race that spans the historic C&O canal trail. And rain means, puddles. Lots of them. Funny enough, we were all trying to “avoid” them. I hear someone behind me say “This is going to be a long 11 miles.” That’s when I was like “Fuck it, I’m just gonna run down the middle of every single one.”

 

At mile 7 my left hip was starting to bother me again. Despite a regular regimen of chiropractic and massage appointments, the week before it had started to feel inflamed. I was hoping that resting would allow it to be back in tiptop shape, but I could feel that aching coming into my gait. “I can keep going though. It’s quite flat on the trail. And by the time I get to the hilly section, I’ll be totally in my groove,” I reassured myself.

 

Then, I devised a great plan! Normally, I run with music. Music seems to anchor me to really positive states and heightens my running experience. So I decided I would take a break from the music and listen to the rain and the forest for a bit, and at mile 13, the half way point, I would turn my music back on and Presto! It’d be like starting the race all over again. A perfect reset button for my energy.

 

Except the Universe had other plans for me.

 

My phone died.

 

Yep, the piece of equipment that I had been using to pace myself, keep me energized, and know how far I had come up and went kaput on me in the eleventh hour. Or mile 7.5.

 

OK, now I’ve had it.

 

This isn’t the fun time I thought it was going to be.

 

My inner privileged-white girl just wanted to go drink a pumpkin spice latte and be done with this.

 

Because of the rain, a lot of the mile markers hadn’t been put out. And because this was a grassroots, local race, there were water stations every three miles or so. And there ain’t a whole lot of smart people who decide they want to run a 26 mile race in West-by-God Virginia in an October rainstorm. So there weren’t many people around.

 

It was just me… and me.

 

The ultimate test. I knew this was more than just physical endurance. It was even more than mental endurance.

 

I had to remember and connect with WHY the flip I decided to do this...

 

***

 

The "Road of Trials" is a series of tests, tasks, or ordeals, that the hero must undergo to begin the transformation. Often the hero fails one or more of these tests, which often occur in threes.

 

Think of the stories A Christmas Carol and the visits to Past, Present, and Future. The Triwizard Cup in Harry Potter. Aladdin’s three wishes.

 

The Road of Trials can feel like you are undergoing torture…I mean, transformation. It’s where you have to rely on your inner strength to keep you going, because all outer reserves have failed. It’s where you have to pick yourself up out of the dirt, again and again.

 

The good thing about being face down in the dirt is you don’t have anywhere further to fall.

 

Falling isn’t failing. Not getting back up is.

 

So when you find yourself hoofing it on the Road of Trials, take a deep breath. You are exactly where you need to be. You are strong enough.

 

And you will make it through.

 

Love Always,

 

3 Ways to Find Your Own Heroic Strength

Your Hero’s Journey: Belly of the Whale (Part 2)

 

Many moons ago, the Great Creator called together all the animal beings in his creation. The animals came from far and wide, because they were grateful servants of the Creator and willing to help in any way they could. They all congregated in a large circle.

 

The Creator said to the animals, “There is something I wish to hide from the humans. That Secret is the knowledge of the fact that they as human beings create their own life experience. Human beings are masters of their own destiny. Now, I need to hide this someplace where they cannot find it until they are ready for it. I need your help, where shall I hide it?”

 

Right away, Eagle says, “Give it to me! I’ll fly it to the moon and hide it on the dark side. Why they’ll never find it there.”

 

The Creator thought and replied, “No, for one day the humans will go to the moon and they will find it.”

 

Then Salmon spoke up. She said, “Woohoo, give it to me! I’ll swim it to the bottom of the deepest sea and I’ll hide it in a reef! Why they’ll never find it there! No they won’t. I can promise you that.”

 

The Creator said, “No, no. Believe it or not the humans will one day go to the bottom of the sea and they will find it.”

 

Then bear said, “Well, give it to me. I’ll carry it on up to the highest mountain and I know of a cave way up in there and I’ll hide it way in the back among the bats. Why you know I don’t believe they can find that mountain, let alone the secret.”

 

The Creator said, “No, one day the humans will even scrape the mountains down and they will find it.”

 

That’s about the time when Grandmother Mole spoke up. Now you see, whenever Grandmother Mole speaks, all of the creatures become very still and quiet for although Grandmother Mole has no physical eyes through which to see, she can see though the eyes of her heart.

 

Grandmother Mole said quietly, “Put it inside of them.”

 

The Creator said, “It is done.”

 

***

 

Ever wonder why, if we are the creator’s of our own experience, it can seem to gosh darn hard to find that strength when you need it most?

 

We all have stories that we play on repeat. Many of these stories can be quite negative and self-limiting. These are the types of stories that cause disease, depression, and “numbness” towards life. These stories can prevent us from accessing our inner strength.

 

However, we can use these stories to help us on our Hero’s Journey. When we are in the “Belly of the Whale,” in the heat of the fire, in the thick of the storm, we MUST go deeper.

 

A simple process that I base my work and life on is called “Feel, Heal, Real.” When I feel like I am in the middle of a storm or I am witnessing someone else go through it, this is the wisdom I rely upon to help me and others tap in to that heroic strength.

 

Feel

The first step is to Feel. The block that prevents healing, abundance, and inner strength is not fully feeling, or accepting, who and where we are now. Through compassionate presence, allow yourself to get in touch with the deeper story that is causing suffering in your life. By fully feeling it, the energy can now shift, and you can heal.

Heal

Once you Feel, you are ready to Heal. Healing is a process unique to you. There are many methods of healing depending on the story. In any situation, all healing paths will incorporate a spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical approach. The common theme in all healing is presence – allowing yourself to come fully in the now with your experience. Then you can choose how to proceed – to release what no longer feels true and to integrate what does.

Real

When you Heal, it's time to Real. This means that you are taking action – but from a space of “non-doing.” By feeling and healing first, you are in a state of peace. Taking action from this state allows you to experience what you are creating in a physical reality. The Real stage is where you are creating experiences like vibrant health, money, relationships, and abundance. The Real phase of the Hero’s Journey is where you witness the fruits of this inner work. 

 

Practice this process at any time – especially when you feel confused, lonely, afraid, sad, hurt, or angry.

 

1.    Fully accept that you emotions are valid.

 

2.    Allow yourself to feel the experience and once that feels complete, let go of what needs to go, and bring in the learning.

 

3.   From this clear space, you can take true action and witness a change in your reality.

 

You will see your Destiny unfolding before your very eyes.

 

Love Always,

 

No Turning Back

Your Hero’s Journey: Belly of the Whale

 

I was standing on the top of a 30-foot wooden pole. And the only thing I could think to say to myself was, “Breathe.”

 

It felt like the whole forest was quiet. I couldn’t hear anything, despite the fact that there we seven people yelling at me from the muddy earth below.

 

I was slowly, so slowly, turning. My knees were slightly bent. I was inching one foot in a pivoting motion, following carefully by the other. My size five feet were hanging ever so slightly over the edge of the pole. I couldn’t even think about how small the diameter was. All I could think was, “Breathe.”

 

A few moments before, I was grabbing on to the outer circumference of that pole, with both feet on a large staple-like step.

 

When I had started the climb for this exercise, I just took it one step at a time. “This isn’t so bad,” I thought. Just step and breathe. Step and breathe. The staples were big enough I could easily grab on like handlebars, and I felt like my feet had a pretty sure grip in my hiking boots.

 

But when I got to the top, there were no more steps. Well, scratch that. There was one more step.

 

On top of the pole.

 

As I hugged the pole, I could feel it gently swaying, like the surrounding trees. My mind had gone blank. “How on earth do I get up here?” I asked myself. More like my feet asked me. “Danielle, how do you expect us to get up there?”

 

Then I had a brilliant idea. I don’t need to take this step. I’ve already reached the top.

 

I’ll just go back down the way I came.

 

But as soon as I looked down I knew that was a bad idea.

 

Not just because of looking down, although that certainly contributed to it.

 

But because, I knew, I really had not reached MY top.

 

I knew I could take that step.

 

I just had to trust… myself.

 

And maybe God.

 

Because there were no more hand holds. There was nothing but thin air to grab onto. I simply had to take the big step… the one that felt like a mountainous, impossible leap.

 

I have no idea how I did it. I just knew that I had. Because there I was, standing on top of the pole, slowly, so slowly, turning towards my destiny.

 

***

 

Every Hero experiences being in the “Belly of the Whale.” This is the stage that represents the final separation from the hero’s known world and old self. By entering this stage, the hero shows her willingness to undergo a metamorphosis.

 

This is the stage like the caterpillar going into the cocoon. The whole thing turns to goo. This is when it feels like your entire life as you know it is falling apart, maybe YOU’RE even falling apart. This is where you decide to let go completely and undergo your complete transformation.

 

What needs to go in your life? Let it go. What needs to be reborn? Rebirth it.

 

Know that you are not alone here in the belly of the whale… you’ve got LOADS of friends. Also know that this stage doesn’t last forever. It’s temporary. But oh so necessary.

 

This is when you not only realize, but truly decide, there is no turning back.

 

You cannot reenter the life you left. The box is too small. You are too precious.

 

And your Calling is too big.

 

Love Always,

 

Feel the Fear

Your Hero’s Journey: Crossing the First Threshold (Part 2)

 

Fear.

 

We all feel it.

 

Think of all the stories about Hero’s you know. Even in the midst of brave action, the Hero doesn’t NOT have fear.

 

Crossing the First Threshold, taking that first leap into the unknown may be the scariest thing you have ever done.

 

Fear is the thing I hear the most when I ask, “What’s holding you back?” It’s the reason people give for not doing what they love, for not putting themselves out there. It’s the energy that prevents us from not sharing our gift with the world. It’s what keeps us stuck in a state of dis-ease.

 

Fear is what makes us stay on the hamster wheel...to not leave the job that drains us, to put off teaching the message we want to share, to not pursue the adventure that is calling out hearts.

 

For me, fear gets me running around like a chicken with her poor little head cut off.

 

(And I like chickens, so I want to keep all our body parts intact here…)

 

The question is then, How do we face our inner “chicken?”

 

How do we face our fear?

 

The first step in any change is acknowledgment. We must first be aware that there is fear in the first place. A simple way to acknowledge this could be:

 

“I am experiencing fear.”

 

I use this phrase instead of “I am afraid” for a specific reason. It could “just” be semantics, but our words describe our inner reality. “I am this” means “I = this.”

 

And that’s not true.

 

You are not fear. You are not your stories or thoughts or emotions. You are so much more than that.

 

By first claiming your experience, you’ve stepped into the space of the observer. Now you can start giving some space to that experience. For example, by saying:

 

“I observe that I am experiencing fear.”

 

This is where you are just watching it, just witnessing it. Like a slow motion movie. Feel the intensity but know you are not the energy of it. It is something that is moving through you. Fear like any other emotion, is energy in motion.

 

There will be a point where you feel separate enough from the fear that you have enough space to make a choice.

 

Will I let fear drive, or shall I?

 

And I know you, oh powerful one.

 

You shall drive.

 

Because you are driven by something that is so much bigger than fear.

 

What is it for you?

 

What is your why? Why do you live the way you do? What do you do what you do? Why do you love what you love?

 

The question “Why” in this sense spirals you up, rather than down. In this space, you get to connect with your bigger reason. Your purpose.

 

You get to choose. Purpose over Fear.

 

Every time you go through this process of choice, it makes you stronger.

 

Fear is not something to be feared. It’s something to be felt. Faced. And utliamtely furthered inton another chance to fulfill your purpose at a higher level.

 

Once you choose, act from that space. That space of Love, Oneness, and Peace. Your Haven Within.

 

Because the antidote to fear is action. Action from Love.

 

Let’s review those steps.

 

1.     Acknowledge: “I am experiencing fear”

2.     Observe: “I observe that I am experiencing fear.”

3.     Give Space: Watch with Compassion and Feel the Fear

4.     Decide: Choose to Drive.

5.     Connect: Why? For what purpose? What moves you?

6.     Act: Do from a space of whole-hearted you.

 

It’s a simple, yet a life long practice. It’s the practice that brings all into physical reality. It’s the process of healing, of clearing, of creating, transforming, and completing. It’s the process of fully living.

 

Next time you feel Fear, clap your hands my Dear.

 

 

You are Living.

 

 

Love Always,

 

Taking that First Step

Your Hero’s Journey: Crossing the First Threshold

 

Do you remember your first day of school?

 

I don’t readily recall mine. But I’ve heard stories from others. Spanning from the hilarity of being so excited they tripped on the stairs, to throwing an absolute fit and clinging to their parent’s leg.

 

School was the big unknown at that time.

 

Venturing into our full-on experience with our calling is no different. It is a big step into new territory.

 

The first threshold is the point where the Hero actually crosses into the field of adventure, leaving the known limits of her world. She ventures into an unknown and even dangerous realm where the rules and limits are unclear.

 

A lot of times, we say we want to do something different with our lives… but our actions speak differently. This can be because even though we may not like our current belief system or way of life, it is something that is known. On some level, that certainty is comforting.

 

And I will not lie, stepping out of that container IS uncertain. It can feel scary. But it doesn’t have to be dangerous. In fact, it can be the most exhilarating step you have ever taken.

 

Crossing the threshold is that one step you take when you KNOW your on the path. When I set out to hike the Appalachian Trail, I knew I had crossed the threshold when I took my first step on the path in Springer Mountain, Georgia. This is where I left my old life behind and entered a world I was unfamiliar with.

 

I recently had the opportunity to experience a client’s performance – his debut of his work. Of course, he has answered the Call many times, but this was a new threshold for him. And he will cross many more along the way.

 

The funny thing with crossing the threshold is we can agonize about how on earth we are going to do it, when all it is taking a very simple and single step.

 

The agony seems to come from wanting it to be “perfect.” Let me tell you, the Hero’s Journey ain’t perfect. It’s messy. It’s sweaty. And it’s glorious in it’s imperfections. Because in every “mistake” we are learning something, going deeper, getting pushed further inside in order to bring what’s real outside.

 

So the how for crossing the threshold is simple – just do it. Just take that small step. Write the email. Make the phone call. Design the course. Put your face in front of a camera…a person…an audience…yourself.

 

Take the step… and see what happens.

 

Love Always,

 

4 Questions for Radical Transformation

Your Hero's Journey: Supernatural Aide (Part 2)

 

I walk in to the small grey concrete shala after stepping somewhat ungracefully off the back of a motorbike. It’s hot. India hot. Like the sun wants to crawl inside your skull. I guess that’s why so many westerner’s come here to experience enlightenment.

 

Removing my sandals at the threshold, I enter a small simple, office, with a desk, a chair, a cabinet, and a padded bench. Behind the desk, I notice that the large cabinet is filled with trophies and medals, that despite the collection in it, is quite unassumingly set back. One of the quiet Indian men there politely offers me a seat, murmuring “The teacher will be here in a moment.”

 

I’m reviewing a piece of paper overviewing the yoga practice, called Prana Vashya, that I will be learning over the next month, when another man walks in.

 

When he greets me, I almost am not sure this is the teacher. He is young man, maybe only a little older than me. But that is not why. For some reason, I pictured an Indian yoga teacher as a formidable force, someone who may be strict and aloof, or float six inches above the ground. Intimidating.

 

The man who speaks to me does not strike me as that. He is warm and welcoming.

 

In my nervousness, I ask “What is your name?” even though I know damn well who he is.

 

He humbly answers, as any person on the street would, “I am Vinay Kumar.”

 

I feel instantaneously included and cared for by him as he gives me an overview of the month-intensive course and listens intently as I share my background with yoga and how my body is feeling. When I walk out of the office and back to my room at the guesthouse, I have a sure knowing that I have made a great choice of who to help me deepen my yogic studies.

 

I could not comprehend at that moment how much that man would change my life.

 

The first class kicked my ass. I had been traveling for a few months prior and had not been practicing regularly. Even though I had still been active, running and doing a practice a few times a week, it was a whole other level taking a led class with Vinay. The sequence flows smoothly, but quickly, with a certain breath pattern. During some movements we hold our breath and I know I was gasping at certain points. And that Indian heat was wicked.

 

Over the coming weeks, I experienced a whole gamut of thoughts, emotions, and physical experiences. There were days I would look at the clock in the hopes we were near the end. For a week I had to modify nearly every pose due to an intensely tightened muscle in my left leg. Some of my fellow students and I would greet each other mutely at the gate of the shala in the mornings, happy to be there and at the same time feeling a sense of foreboding about the next several hours of our lives.

 

I also had one of the most enlightening experiences of my life thus far.

 

During one back bending practice, I was feeling particularly down in the dumps. I cannot recall why I was in this state. I do vividly remember the feeling during our warm up twists that I just wanted to run out the door, cry endlessly, and not come back.

 

But through the practice, that intense emotion lessened its grip on me slightly. I just kept listening to what Vinay would tell me to do, did it, and went on to the next pose. Eventually, he told me to stand up and do back bends on my feet (leaning back as far as I could). Then, totally unexpected to me, he said, “OK, now drop back.”

 

A what?!

 

I totally did not think I was ready. But he assisted me and I trusted him completely. When my hands touched the mat, I felt the most intense surge of empowerment I had felt in a long time. I left that class walking on air, so excited to come back for more.

 

Talk about complete and instant transformation.

 

I could go on and on about what I learned while practicing with Vinay and his qualities as a teacher and a human being. He was someone so humble, so inclusive, and so sweet, while at the same time so powerful, so tough, so wise, and so not going to let you get away with anything.

 

Really, there is one story that could sum up what kind of person this teacher is. One Prana Vashya practice, I was clipping along merrily, keeping up with the breath pretty well and moving well in and out of the poses.

 

At one point though, I went through a transitional pose and my mat wrinkled up in the back.

 

“Oh, well,” I thought, “I’ll fix it my next go round.”

 

But when I got to the next round, it was flat again.

 

Hmm, strange. But I didn’t give it much more thought. Guess it just fixed itself.

 

A few poses later, my foot caught my mat, and it rolled up again.

 

Vinay was walking around the room, counting the breath clearly and steadily, giving each student precise and pose transformative cues as he did every day. As he walked by my mat, without missing a beat in the teaching, he took his toes around the edge of my mat and flattened it for me.

 

A simple act that made me want to cry again; this time with tears of gratitude.

 

***

 

The simplest things are what allow for the most profound transformation.

 

And when we are in the thick of a transmuting (aka tough) experience, the most powerful tool can be a simple question.

 

All of our suffering comes from the stories we live in our minds. Our stories come from our thoughts. Our thoughts come from our conditioning – what we have learned over the course of our life and what our ancestors have passed down to us. You are on this planet with the purpose to heal. Not only heal yourself, but also to heal this old conditioning of the human species.

 

Four powerful questions can help us to open our hearts and go inside for the deeper answers.

 

Notice the thought you are thinking that is causing suffering.

 

First, ask: “Is it true?” (Yes or No. If No, move to 3).

 

Second, ask: “Can I absolutely know that it is true?” (Yes or No).

 

Third, ask: “How do I react, what happens, when I believe this thought?”

 

Fourth, ask: “Who would I be without this thought?”

 

These questions can give us access to another perspective. To a truer version of our own story.

 

These questions are based on The Work by Byron Katie. There are also several sub-questions that can provide additional turnarounds to the problem.

 

A turnaround is simply a mirror image of the original thought. For example, “I am not good enough” turns into “I am good enough.” Or “He doesn’t listen to me” could be “He does listen to me” or “I don’t listen to him.” When we examine examples of how all of these statements are true, we loosen our grip on the problem.

 

Then the reality of that story of suffering begins to crumble.

 

You go from wanting to run out the door to dropping backwards and catching yourself with your bare hands.

 

And the fold in your mat flattens out again.

 

Love Always,

 

Your Supernatural Aide has Arrived

Your Hero’s Journey: Supernatural Aide

 

“When you keep asking the Universe for what you want, and it keeps giving you chance after chance to take it, but you keep refusing… in some way you are telling the Universe to f*ck off.

 

I was at the edge of my seat at a personal growth seminar. The lead trainer had me captivated. He was talking about creating what we really want in life, about seeing the signs. This was the last of three progressively pointed statements saying just that: When we ask for help/guidance/a desire to be fulfilled… and we continuously deny the gift when it comes to us, we are disregarding the assistance of the Universe.

 

Now I believe in a benevolent Universe. I believe there is something bigger out there that loves us unconditionally, no matter how much we bumble down the path.

 

This is more for our own realization – that if we keep shutting the Universe out, it cannot help us.

 

So at the next break, I practically LEPT out of my chair. I was not thinking whatsoever. All I know is I had a fire under my ass.

 

I walked up to the trainer, and hastedly blurted out, “I don’t really know what I’m doing but that really spoke to me. And I would love to work with you someday.”

 

Three days later, I had a job with the company.

 

In this case, my supernatural aide came in the form of a teacher, a person. For many though, supernatural aide can come in many forms. One colleague of mine found hers in a horse. Another on the television telling her to move to North Carolina. One client of mine even found supernatural aide on a road sign.

 

They say that when the student is ready, the teacher appears.

 

This couldn’t be more true.

 

In the Hero’s Journey, once the hero has committed to her quest, whether it be consciously or unconsciously, her guide or magical helper appears.

 

Think Yoda in Star Wars. Or Haggrid in Harry Potter.

 

Now think back on your life… where has mystical aide stepped in for you? How did you know this was your guide?

 

Here are my tips for knowing your guide when you meet them:

 

1.     You feel completely understood.

 

Being the presence of this guide helps you feel seen and heard. Not only do you feel understood by this other being or entity, you also feel like you understand yourself more too.

 

2.     You see qualities in them that you would like to embody in yourself.

 

There is something in this other entity that reminds you of who you want to be. The reason this is so is because they are merely reflecting back to you who you already are. They are there to help you move into the person you are called to be.

 

3.     There is a deep feeling of trust.

 

You feel that you could trust this person with your life. You may not have any logical reason for it, but you sense this person has high integrity, is honest, and will hold your trust in confidence.

 

4.     The person is clear and open.

 

The mystical helper is one who is clear and open. They are direct and up front, while also listening to your needs. You know where you stand with this person. What you see is what you get.

 

5.     What the guide says and lives resonated with you.

 

You feel and witness how this teacher walks the talk. You find yourself captivated by their message and the way they deliver it.

 

Supernatural aide comes in many ways. We all needs different support throughout our lives. To say that each person’s guide looks the same is foolish.

 

Ultimately, this helper is one who simply remind us of who the real teacher really is.

 

You.

 

Love Always,

 

4 Things that Keep us From Our Calling

Your Hero’s Journey: Refusing the Call (Part 2)

 

Even when we can feel it in our bones that we are called to move in a direction in our life, all heroes struggle with blocks that keep us from our calling.

 

Refusing the Call is another way of saying that a block has come up and has taken hold of us. Instead of beating ourselves up over it, we can face the block, and in doing so, we are already on our path of our purpose.

 

1.    Block 1: I am this way and I cannot change

 

This type of interpretation of a block is when something happens and we say, “This block is so REAL. I always attract this type of thing. I am not capable of handling this. I am this way and I cannot change.”

 

We pick this up and make it our story.

 

When we approach the block from this perspective, it’s like we’ve hit a brick wall.

 

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

 

When something comes up for you, another way to look at it is that this is SUPPOSED to happen. This isn’t to say that we are meant to be stuck in a negative state, emotion, or situation, but that baggage comes up because it needs to be healed.

 

And now is the time for healing.

 

The trigger or block can be seen as a mile marker. When you are driving down the road to go to your favorite destination, there are mile markers along the way. Experiencing a block is just that. It is an indicator that, yes, you are traveling further down the path and this is just what needs to be healed along the way.

 

Check in and see what the block or trigger brings up in you. Is there something for you to release or accept? What is your true intention? Reconnect with that. In doing do, you will find a way to move around, under, up, over, or through your block…if it’s even there at all anymore.

 

2.    Block 2: I’m not sure

 

This block is one of doubt. When we doubt ourselves or our path, we don’t know which way to go or what to do.

 

We may say to ourselves, “OK, I’m not totally sure, so I am just going to put one toe in and see how to proceed.” But when you just “test the water,” where is all of your weight? Behind you. The “one toe in” is indicative of not fully committing to yourself.

 

The way to handle the block of doubt is to decide. Decide first what decision you need to make. Then make that choice, and move forward whole-heartedly.

 

3.    Block 3: It Must Not be Meant to Be

 

This block happens is when we take our past or current experience as being some Sign from God that we are not meant to continue down our desired path.

 

What we are saying in this paradigm is this:

 

That the all powerful Creator, Goddess almighty who created everything and sees all decided one day, “Oh look! There’s little Danielle. I’m going to FUCK with her today and during her life.” And puts these challenging circumstances right smack dab in your path.

 

The way to move through this is a shift in perspective. At the deepest level of who we are we are Energy, we have encoding for perfection. We are part of this Universe and connected to all of it. The Universe is so abundant we will never run out. When we shift our beliefs to those that the Universe actually wants us to prosper, grow, and heal, this is what is so.

 

The Universe gives us experiences to help us learn and grow, and to realize that maybe there is another way than the past. That we can create a new path.  

 

4.    Block 4: Let me wait and see

 

This type of block is linked to analysis paralysis. We can hear our calling, but we don’t do anything at all.

 

We freeze internally. We look to someone else to do it for us. Or we use our conscious minds to analyze and wait until the perfect answer comes to do anything.

 

Everything inside of you is screaming “GO!” But you stop and think… “Is this the right time? Maybe I should just think about it.”

 

This brings the energy back up into the mental, instead of down into the physical.

 

The way through this block is tuning in to your sensation. When you think of moving in this direction, does it create a tightening, constrictive, shackles on sensation? Or does it create a freeing, expansive, shackle’s off sensation?

 

This is trusting your gut that you know it’s the right time, even if it doesn’t completely make sense.

 

The common theme in addressing all of these blocks is trust and self-acceptance.

 

Your intuition is your Soul speaking to you. Even if you don’t have the complete picture of where all this is going, simply facing these blocks and choosing to step forward will present a whole new perspective.

 

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

 

When you feel blocked, build a castle.

 

Love Always,

 

The Mission Impossible

Your Hero’s Journey: Refusing the Call

 

My dad was known for his quick temper. He was just a firey kind of guy. He had his opinions, but they were always rooted in love. He cared very much.

 

A few years ago, my grandmother’s health was failing. She was experiencing memory loss, and so my dad stepped in to help take care of her. He would drive up to Vermont to visit her on the weekends. One of his instructions, for the Highest Good of everyone, was that she NOT drive the car anymore. He’d arrange to get her where she needed to go.

 

Grandma was as sweet as they come. Short, plump, rosy cheeked Jane always had a smile on her face. I really don’t know how she did it.

 

Well, until I heard this story.

 

One day, my dad was sitting at the dinner table with her, haranguing her about driving the car. Instead of arguing back with him, she simply smiled politely… and proceeded to turn off her hearing aid.

 

Blissful Silence.

 

This is one of those funny family stories. And I don’t blame Grandma one bit for silencing that.

 

But what happens when we turn off our hearing aide, when we silence our Call?

 

The Hero may hear the Call, but often she refuses to heed it. She may feel a sense of duty or obligation, a ton of fear, a sense of inadequacy, and a lot of doubt.


Sound familiar?

 

My dear, I have heard this so many times. If not from my clients than from thoughts in my OWN head. Those stories and limiting beliefs we hold about ourselves, saying…

 

“I’m not good enough.”

“I don’t know what I am doing.”

“Who would want me?”

“Sure, so and so can do it, but there’s no way I can.”

“I’m afraid, and I’ll always be afraid.”

 

The thing with these stories is…

 

They are full of shit.

 

We tell ourselves a bunch of lies! Day in, and day out. I have no idea why. I can’t tell you how many times I have looked in the mirror and said “God, I have no idea why you gave me a mind. If I am Peace and Love and all that jazz, than why on mother’s green earth do I think such awful things about myself and life?”

 

I haven’t gotten a response yet… but I imagine that God chuckles at this.

 

The best way I think about it, is that we were given this amazing, creative free will. We are so powerful… we just forget it. And so sometimes we “mis-create” – as in, we make up shitty storylines to explain what’s happening and often we are at the losing end of the stick.

 

These are the storylines, the lies, the myths, that we believe that cause us to refuse our call.

 

Of course, we all have certain responsibilityies in life. But I believe that term has been misinterpreted. I like Deepak Chopra definition. Responsibility is the ability to respond.

 

As in, responsibility = creativity.

 

So yep, we need a roof - of some sort :) - over our heads. We need food in our bellies. If you’ve got kids, of course we have huge love for them and want to care for them in the best possible way.

 

But when we refuse our Call… is that the best possible way?

 

What do we want to teach our children? Our friends? Our loved ones? What do we want to teach ourselves?

 

When we look back on life, will we be truly happy that we refused the Call?

 

Or do you want to see what happens, when you answer it?

 

Love Always,

 

11 Signs You've Got a Calling

Your Hero’s Journey: 11 Signs You’ve Got a Calling

 

As someone who struggled with a chronic illness, low self-esteem, and feeling out of place for a large portion of my life, it has felt like a breath of fresh air to realize that I am not the only one.

 

We’ve ALL got something Calling to us that causes us to feel a little different than the rest.

 

A Calling is: a strong urge to a particular way of life.

 

Your Calling is unique to you, and yet there are similarities among all Callings. Here’s how to know you are in the process of answering your own Calling.

 

1.    It will feel like you have been “in training” for your Calling your whole life.

 

From that game you used to play on the playground, to the subjects that drew you in school (or drove you out of school), to the breakup and divorce, to wrangling with a chronic disease, you feel as if life has been one big bootcamp to prepare you to undertake this Calling.

 

2.    Crazy shit starts to happen when you step towards your Calling.

 

Crazy shit as in good, crazy shit. Like you decide you want an office… and the perfect space appears (at a great price, too). You stumble upon a class that aligns exactly with the skills and experience you want to build. They call these things “synchronicities.” You’ll feel that sense of awe and gratitude, because you realize something bigger than you is moving things for you.

 

3.    When you move away from your Calling, other Crazy shit starts to happen.

 

Crazy shit as in bad, crazy shit. Like you decide to take that job that pays well, but you clench your fists slightly more every time you think about it. They change your job description, have you running around more for less money. Sure, we all encounter obstacles on our hero’s journey… but this is the type of crap that keeps piling up more and more and more. If it feels like you are in the underbrush, you may have stepped away from your true Calling.

 

4.    You get redirected.

 

That door you really want to walk through gets slammed in your face. Or doesn’t open at all, no matter how hard you slam you ass into it. This is when the deal falls through, the money fizzles out, people don’t sign up. You put something out there and…Crickets. It’s not that you are doing something wrong. It’s just the process of the Universe rerouting you into the Call you are meant to answer.

 

5.    Your Calling feels too easy…even when it’s challenging.

 

That thing you create or do that doesn’t feel hard at all but brings you immense joy, is your Calling. I often hear people say, “But I didn’t DO anything! This is just easy for me!” Exactly. You don’t DO your Calling, your Calling does you. Even when there are obstacles, deadlines, hurdles to jump over and rivers to cross, you find that it feels easy to keep moving forward.

 

6.    Supernatural aide appears just at the right time.

 

A teacher, a mentor, a group, a dog, something mystical crosses your path to guide you deeper into the unknown to embrace your Calling.

 

7.    You start to feel better.

 

If you’ve been experiencing health issues, engaging with your Calling seems to highly correlate with clearing up symptomology. Your chronic fatigue gets fatigued and you have newfound energy. That IBS that was causing the runs, runs off in favor of full assimilation of your experience. Because you love your Calling… it’s only natural that it makes you come ALIVE.

 

8.    Money comes in just in the nick of time

 

Just when you are about to throw in the towel, your Calling comes through with the money you need to keep going - to provide for yourself AND support others. Even if you secretly (or not so secretly) fear becoming a bag lady, the money arrives… usually right when you are in the center of your purpose lane.

 

9.    You feel oddly peaceful when engaging with your Calling.

 

Other people might call you crazy or probe you with evaluating questions, but you feel weirdly peaceful amidst a ton of uncertainty. A part of you may believe them, but a bigger part, a deeper rooted part of you (which I call Your Haven Within), KNOWS without a doubt, that you are on the right path. Your path.

 

10. You get Red Carpet service.

 

What you are being called to do ultimately benefits the Highest Good, no matter how you cut it. The Universe WANTS you to succeed. It will align everything perfectly. You’ll get out of your lease just in time to go on that adventure. You friend introduces you to your soul mate. The job opportunity falls right in your lap.

 

11. Your tribe finds you.

 

The Hero’s Journey, although unique and ultimately a deeply personal experience, is not fulfilled alone. When we answer our call, we draw our tribe to us, to help us do the brave, scary, world-changin’ we were born to do. When you open yourself up and share your gift with the world, your peeps will find you.

 

No matter what your Calling is, it is guarenteed to help others. Because you Calling heals you. And when you are more alive, this is only good news for the world.

 

You have more to give.

 

You can heal.

 

 

Love Always,